Sometimes I use the vibrator when we are in bed but without allowing him to participate or intervene in any way. At other times I stop him licking my pussy when we both are worked up and I take the vibrator from the bedside table and use it with him just watching from the foot of the bed or perhaps kicked out of the bed and sitting on the floor. Or I have him resting in my arm as a little baby, holding one of my breasts and sucking the nipple (he loves that and has to be a very good boy to be rewarded with permission to suck my nipple) and then I take the vibrator and satisfy my lust. I can also use the viberator when sitting astride him and enjoy feeling his body but do not allow him any part of my sexual pleasure.
There are many ways to do it and it is amusing and adds to my excitement and joy that I can see on his face and hear on his breathing that he is excited and his penis is painfully swelling the little it can when locked safely in his chastity device. His frustration and humiliation is obvious and great when he witnesses my excited pleasure as I with the vibrator am on the way to climax in a wonderful blissful orgasm. A few words commenting on how wonderfully pleasurable the vibrator is compared to the ridiculous organ is usually enough to make him cry.
This little game always has a very taming effect on him. His lust has been woken and he has been reminded of his sexuality but also reminded of me being in full control of his sexuality and doing very well without it. Not even in a purely serving role was he needed or considered useful and still I enjoyed the most pleasurable orgasm in front of him. This ridicules his masculine sexuality, exposes his inferiority and shows him that he is best off suppressing all sexual feelings and canalize the sexual energy into useful things like domestic chores.
It is a funny and exciting way of deliberately humiliating, psychologically emasculating him and ‘diminish his masculine egotism’ and I guarantee that it has a fabulous effect on him. Of course it is only one of many ways and methods of emasculation and discipline that all in different ways help keeping him bridled and in line and aware of his inferiority and subservient status. No matter how often he watches me pleasuring myself with the vibrator a sound thrashing with the cane or strap still answers its purpose and so does dressing him in a style that is emphasized feminine and all the other ways he is disciplined, controlled, humbled and emasculated.
I have never in front of him had sex with another woman but I am certain that passively watching me enjoying sexual pleasures in bed with another woman would have the same and probably an even stronger effect on him. That I have never done it is not a conscious decision to spare him the humiliation but somehow it has just come natural that this part of my sexual life has always been away from home.