It adds to my excitement and pleasure to know that when my husband serves me with his tongue and hands the ridiculous sausage between his legs is getting hard and is swelling painfully inside of its suddenly far too little cage. But the chastity device does not burst and the pain only reminds him that he is deprived of control as well as use of the organ that is so important to a man’s self-image. Being painfully reminded of his manhood being controlled and safely locked up by me must in the situation cause frustration and shame but it seems to spur him to do his very best to please and pleasure me with his tongue.
By now my husband has been locked in chastity for so long that he seems to see the chastity device as almost a part of his body or at least of him as a person. On occasions when I need to be certain that he is easily controlled the normal chastity device is replaced by a Kali’s Tooth Ring and this he fears and hates but my impression is that without his usual chastity device he feels naked, immodest, vulnerable and confused; the freedom scares him and he does no longer know what to do with it. That he sometimes curses the chastity device and experiences being locked up in it as deeply annoying and humiliating is sure but he has become so used to his sexuality being my property and completely controlled by me that he cannot really imagine anything else. It is so much as a basic condition part of his reality and the restricting structures that makes his life simple, safe and in many ways also rewarding that the thought of anything else frightens him.
This mental emasculation is the result of long firm and consistent training that has taught him not only to feel inferior and to be ashamed of his sexuality but also to fear his sexuality as a dark, dangerous power that if unrestrained jeopardizes his safety and his good living as a good little domesticated male and therefore he experiences the chastity device as humiliating to have to wear but also as a security device ensuring that his sexuality will not be able to take control of him. It is much like the aching welts on his buttocks and back thighs ensuring him of being safe and secure in my care and therefore despite the pain and shame providing him with a comfortable and reassuring feeling of belonging and being controlled.
I doubt that he still would want to abuse his sexuality by masturbating if he got the chance to do so; he is too aware of his inferiority and too ashamed of his sexuality to want it but he knows that the physical urge and temptation would probably be irresistible and this frightens him and makes him appreciate the chastity device that effectively restricts his sexuality and spares him from temptation.
By consistent ridicule and humiliation I have taught him to be ashamed of the primitive and filthy male sexuality and to see the male body as not only primitive, unfinished and brutishly but also improper and I have taught him this so well that the shame is a dominant and controlling factor in how he experiences being a male and especially how he experiences his sexuality. I am sure that even when I with obvious joy make use of his sexuality and when I ride astride him with his manhood inside me his excitement and lust is mixed with shame.
The shame puts a damper on his excitement and natural inclination to give in to his lust. Mentally it restrains him and his sexuality and it helps him to remain reasonably calm and despite all tempting signals from his penis desperately not wanting to ejaculate. Naturally he knows that there would not be much left of his bottom after the caning that an unauthorized ejaculation would earn him but I am sure that the shame that ejaculation would cause is a stronger deterrent than the fear of punishment.
Also the feeling of being used, of having his improper sexuality used by me and having the most disgraceful part of his body in my focus and handled by me naturally adds to his embarrassment and makes him want everything else but being controlled by his sexuality and ejaculate. Probably he does his best to think of ice cubes or dish-washing and to ignore his lust.
When I sit astride him I have to allow him so much sexual freedom and pleasure that he can have an erection and I can insert his penis in my vagina and also so much that he stays hard so that I can enjoy using his manhood but at the same time I cannot slack the rein on him so much that he is worked up to the point of no return. It is a balance and I have learned to master it well. Years ago there were a few times when I failed to control him properly and had to jump off to avoid getting his filth inside me but the last several years there have not been any unauthorized ejaculations. It is very much a matter sensing when he is getting too worked up to restrain himself from moving and thrusting and it is funny but it is not from the lower part of his body that I catch the signals telling that it is time to hit the break and make him wave good bye to that orgasm: no, it is from the desperately fearful look in his eyes when he realizes that soon he can no longer resist the temptation to give in to his lust.
The duration of my rides on him usually is almost an hour and naturally the intensity varies a lot during the ride. Just as naturally he does not have the stamina to stay hard for so long a time. I ride him at a walking pace and for instance if I feel that he cannot keep his erection up I enjoy a brisk trot to make him hard again. A short gallop that does not gives him time to be too worked up and ejaculating is usually how I come to orgasm and after I orgasm he has no stimulation and is usually soon soft and little and has to be titillated a little when I am ready to continue the ride. There are periods of the ride when I simply enjoy feeling him inside me but do not move more than necessary to sense him inside me and making sure he does not loose his erection and there are times when I stop and take the time to slap his face (he is in such a good position for it when I sit astride him) and ridicule and verbally humiliate him for instance by telling him how much more fun and pleasure I can enjoy with my viberator.
I like to make him come very close to an orgasm before I slow down and cheat him out of the relief he thought was certain and I know that if he should bolt I can stop him by slapping him or pinching him. Pinching his groin hard makes him with absolute certainty lower the flag instantly no matter how close he is to ejaculating and then it unfortunately takes a good deal of titillating to make him hard again but fortunately I am experienced enough to rarely facing this situation and should everything else fail there is always the possibility of letting him finish the job with his tongue.