Femdomous

I find it satisfying that my husband does not love but dreads being spanked. He knows that he is lucky that I many years ago took him into my care and for instance honoured him with the privilege of being father to my children. He also knows that he is lucky that I keep him on a tight rein and have never spared the rod but from this knowledge and to loving is a long way and it is good that he has only come to respect and fear the way I spank him.

I have never made a secret of my matriarchal conviction and the fact that I run a female led household but it is indisputable that legislation as well as social norms that must be observed is in some ways limiting.

Except for on vacations I have never spanked my husband outside our home.

Relatives and my best friends know that I spank him and with several of them I have on occasion discussed the use of cane and strap and I have told them of some of his punishments. Over the years they all also at times have heard me reprimanding him and seen me slapping him. There have also been occasions when friends or relatives came to visit when he was doing corner time or had been sent to bed. In the presence of these persons who all are close to us or me it just comes natural to behave as usually also when my husband needs correction. They are not shocked or offended by it and if he should ever be impertinent and disrespectful to any of them or in their presence behave so poorly that instant severe punishment was called for I would not hesitate to spank him with them present.

Surely he knows that one thing that for certain could make me absolutely furious would be if he was disrespectful to female relatives or to my friends and probably he instinctively also knows that should such a situation ever occur would the shame of them witnessing his punishment be the least of his problems. Should it one day happen would it be difficult for me to control my temper and I also would be terrible ashamed and feel obliged to show the guest whether she was a relative or a friend that such behaviour is not tolerated but has very painful consequences. Probably I would at the time act spontaneously and trusting that the friend or relative would not be offended but pleased to see that my naughty husband was instantly and severely punished.

Considering that these relatives and friends are all in agreement with me about male inferiority and the need for keeping a tight rein on males I assume that afterwards we when sitting comfortably and sharing a bottle of good wine would look satisfied at his welted, burning bottom exhibited in the corner and we would discuss how naughty all men are and how strict it is necessary to be with them.

Outside home I am always more authoritarian and keep the rein on my husband tighter than usually at home; I simply will not risk that he acts foolishly, touches things he should not touch or gets lost etcetera. That other people can hear me does not make me hesitate to sternly tell him to be quiet, stand still, not stop to look at silly gadgets or whatever else he needs to be told or reminded of. I am not as inclined as at home to slap him if I sense that it could offend or for instance in a restaurant disturb people but then there fortunately are other ways of getting his full attention and correcting him; pinching can even in a restaurant or when standing in queue be done discretely but still cause intense pain and of course there is usually the possibility if necessary to take him aside to a quiet corner where I undisturbed can scold and slap him. How I handle him depends on the situation and circumstances and I have both scolded, slapped and shook him by the ear in countless shops, parking grounds and parks etcetera.

I consider it to be my natural right to discipline my male when and as needed also in public as long as it not offend, disturb or harm other people. It comes very natural not in a restaurant to scold him loudly and slap him in the face but in general it is different outdoors and I do not need to restrain my anger when he misbehaves. What offends or does not offend people who see or hear us in these situations differs a lot but it is surprising how few negative comments and other reactions I have experienced. People seem in general to accept that when a woman scolds and slaps a man he probably deserves it. Several times I have got positive reactions varying from just supportive smiles to remarks like, ‘good to see that you keep him in line’ from passing women who had no idea why I punished him.

In the shops where we for years have purchased most of our everyday commodities it is well known among the shop assistants that I keep my husband on a tight rein; some of them have seen me slapping him and most have heard me reprimanding him and at times also telling him, ‘just wait till I get you home’ and it has never caused problems. Actually it has the positive effect that when he is shopping on his own he is sort of looked after and taken care of so he does not risk coming home with something wrong and when he recently was buying a bottle of gin in the local supermarket he was asked by the cashier if he had got my permission to buy alcohol.

So in principle I am in favour of women’s right to discipline their males in public and I also without problems practise this right but it has to be within the limits of what is socially acceptable and with proper consideration for other people.

With the progressive feminisation of society overt female dominance also in public will within a relatively short time become socially acceptable and it will normal to correct, reprimand and slap males in public places. It is a development that is a natural consequence of women gaining power and taking control in the homes as well as at workplaces and in society’s legislative and executive structures. A constantly increasing number of women already do not hesitate to punish their males and 10 – 15 years from now it will be normal that women also in public rule their males firmly and correct and punish them when necessary.

I doubt that it will ever become normal and socially acceptable for a woman to bare her male in public and whip or spank him. Not even when the matriarchy is a fully established fact will this be socially acceptable. It is not consideration for male sensitivity and modesty that still in the matriarchal society will make it bad form to bare and punish a male in public. The reasons will be the disturbance such punishments will cause and also that many women will be offended and disgusted by the sight; not because the male is punished but because he is bared and his genitals are exposed. Many lesbians find the sight of the male reproductive organs offensive and disgusting and even many of us who at times appreciate the sight and the use of this part of the male anatomy will prefer to decide for ourselves when to see it.

In homes and workplaces this will be different because there women have a choice and each household and workplace will have its own norms and standards also in this matter. No doubt males in most homes will routinely be bared and spanked or whipped in front of other members of the household and girls will early in life experience it as a normal everyday kind of thing to see men bared and getting their bottoms blistered but in other households the women will prefer to spare little girls from the sight of bared males. In the homes it also is possible to show consideration for visitors individual feelings; some will always be delighted to watch a naughty male getting his bare bottom soundly thrashed and some will prefer not to witness such punishments.

I do not see any reason for assembling the whole household to watch each and every time a male needs a bare bottom thrashing but on some occasions it can be wise to do so and in general it will be an educational experience especially for other males in the household to watch and be reminded what happens to a naughty male.

By Charlotte